Update

A Huge Epic Life Update

Ok, fine, the title might be a little misleading. No big news here, but it’s been so long since I updated this space and actually finding time to sit down and write something certainly feels big :).

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I realized recently how nice it is to have something to look back on and see what I was thinking/feeling during a certain time in life, especially while we in the process of adopting our girl girls ;). I wish I had been better about writing here during the last year because it was such a unique one. But the truth is, I’m exhausted. Like literally I think most of what we’ve experienced in the last 12 months has felt like a complete blur because it was all so overwhelming with the highs and the lows and the life changes–some having to do with adjusting to life as a family of four, some things that we brought on ourselves that added to the stress of it all. I feel like I’m just now starting to climb out of the fog that has covered me for a year. Just the other day I was trying to think what I was thinking and feeling last year at this time (when we had been home with our girls for just a couple weeks), what our days looked like and what we were doing with our time. The only thing I could come up with was that I was tired. Just sheer exhaustion.

In a lot of ways this year has been a struggle. I’ve been so happy but there have been many days that I’ve felt overwhelmed, frustrated, and really alone. Adoption is such a funny thing, there’s so much support while you’re walking through it, but at the same time it can be a very isolating journey–for adoptive parents and adopted kiddos alike. There are a lot of things that happened surrounding our adoptions that I’m just now beginning to process. Part of coming out of the fog of the last year, perhaps. But while I feel like some semblance of peace has settled over our home life, these feelings of anger and confusion are starting to come to the surface. Obviously, things to deal with so we can move on in a healthy way. If you’re an adoptive parent reading this and processing things that seem overwhelming to you, you are not alone. Adoption is amazing, yes, but it is also hard and admitting that it feels like more than you can bear at times does not diminish the sheer miracle of adoption! In fact, I think it only serves to highlight God’s amazing grace.

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Our crazy family. Literally, this was the best picture we took. Sigh.

So, what about the good stuff? Oh friends, there is so so very much. These little girls are such a joy. There have been lots of shenanigans in the Hart household over the last year.

We’ve been busy with work and play…

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learning so much in homeschool…

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visiting our favorite aunties…

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and somewhere in there I got a little crazy and started my very own business (which, seriously, am I nuts?  …don’t answer that).

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This wasn’t a great all-encompassing update, but I hope it got you up to speed a little bit with what is going on with us. My goal over the next couple months is to write here a couple times a week. And maybe I’ll even start on that adoption story I promised you guys over a year ago ;)! Thank you for reading and following along with the life of our family.

 

 

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Life at the Hart’s

You guys, I’ve neglected this space a lot longer than I meant to. I think I’ve had a goal of sitting down to write here twice a week, and I’ve totally failed every single week since we’ve been back. To be honest, life has been a bit crazy and it has taken quite a while to get into a routine around here. Because we spent such a long time in Uganda, I headed back to work the week after we got back, which made our weeks pretty busy and delayed the feeling of being all settled in. Full disclosure here: some of our suitcases weren’t unpacked until this week. I had mountains of laundry left from Uganda, we still haven’t gone through all the mail we got while we were gone, and a friend had to come help me vacuum and mop the house this week (eek!) because it hadn’t been done since November. Whew!

I think this week for the first time we really got into a decent routine. The girls didn’t seem as bothered by the disruptions in our schedule (read: far less tears and tantrums), and we managed to get the house in decent shape AND keep everyone fed and clean ;). It feels like quite a feat. For the first time in a very long time, I’m starting to feel like we can actually do this. It’s a good feeling.

All this to say, I want to spend time writing here about life, our adoptions, our time in Uganda, and so much more, but I want to do it well. It’s all coming, I promise! It just might take a little while. For now, I wanted to share some family pictures we took while we were in PA over Easter weekend.

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JJ and her faces. Always cracking us up.

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And finally, one of the whole family together

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We had so much fun spending time with family and, of course, meeting (almost) brand new baby Jesse! I think the girls’ lives were made. They have talked about him and looked at pictures of him for so long, that seeing him and holding him was like a dream come true!

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This week mommy is working night shift (ughhhhh) and we’re looking forward to a visit from Auntie Lu!! Yay! I hope everyone’s weeks are off to a great start!

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A Great BIG Thank You!

You. Guys. Or for my NC friends, y’all ;). It’s been a little over a week since we posted the link to our fundraising page and we have over half of the money we need to raise to travel. WHAT?!?! This has exceeded all our expectations. Totally. Do you know what is even better than knowing we are halfway there? Seeing a name attached to every donation that comes in. And each name represents someone who has walked with us on this journey. What would we have done without friends to rejoice with us when we got good news, hug us when things got hard, and listen to us cry when we thought everything was falling apart? And now so many of you have donated toward bringing our daughter home. I don’t think there’s an adequate way to express our gratitude. But let me just say, thank you so much for all you have done.

And now for the next half. We are traveling in just a couple short weeks, and we need your help. If you were considering making a donation, could you do it now instead of waiting? That would be huge for us. We would really like to do this without relying on a credit card that we have to pay off later. I thought it might be helpful to give you a breakdown of some of the expenses we expect to incur while we’re in Uganda. This way, you know exactly what you contributed to and maybe can feel like you helped in a tangible way.

A house for one night in Jinja is going to cost us $20. If we could get 14 people to donate $20 each, that would cover our two week stay in Jinja.

In Kampala, we’re looking into renting a room in a guest house that would cost $70 a night. This includes, food, clean water, and laundry each day. So, basically $70 per day for almost everything we need! 7 people committing $70 would take care of all our needs for the first week in Kampala.

It will take about $50 per round trip from Jinja to Kampala (or Kampala elsewhere), and we’ll need to use long-distance transportation approximately 4 times that we know of so far. So if four people have $50 to spare, that would cover our travel needs.

We’re trying to do all of this as inexpensively as we can. But as you can imagine, this all adds up. We’ll also need to book much more expensive things, like flights back for all three of us, a passport and visa for our little one, and visas for Corey and me upon landing in Uganda. In addition, we are (obviously) still responsible for all our bills at home like a mortgage, student loan payments, HOA fees, etc. We would just appreciate any way you could help :). **I almost forgot to give you the website where you can give your tax deductible donation! It’s Adopt Together and we have a page set up specifically for our adoption.

Thank you all so much for being our community. We are blessed, sometimes beyond what we can believe.

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